Being in a relationship is definitely not easy. And most of the time it is not infidelity or glaring incompatibility that spell its doom. It is these little emotions boiling beneath that are ultimately a relationship killer. Here are four of these subtle signs that your relationship is in trouble.
When your partner tries to avoid the serious talk. Chances are when your partner asks you to have a talk, you will be thinking of worse-case scenarios. After all, most break-up conversations start that way — with the talk. But that is not always the case, of course. In fact, couples should always sit down for a talk.
Yes, it can be one of the most difficult, gut-wrenching conversations you will ever have in your life, but it is something that should be done especially if one believes something is not working in the relationship. It is understandable if the partner is not yet ready to talk things through, but if he or she keeps avoiding it then something is definitely up.
When your partner make an excuse just to be away. The honeymoon stage is all about being together, merging, coupling. After that there will be a time when one or the other wants to have a life of his or her own. Indeed one of the sign posts of a healthy relationship is being able to be in a relationship and at the same time manage to have a life outside of it. But when you or your partner is consciously avoiding spending time together, then that is another story. If you feel being alone all the time, maybe there is a deeper problem than just wanting to have some “me time”.
When one of you feels like being taken for granted. It always happens in a relationship. One or even both partners feel like he or she is receiving the short end of the relationship. Sometimes the reason is petty, but most of the time it is a sign of something that is not right. When one feels taken for granted, it has the chance to devolve into hurt and resentment. And if there is something that easily poisons a relationship, it is the feeling of resentment.
We you have both stopped growing in the relationship. Finally, if you or both of you feel that you are not growing in the relationship, then it is a pretty good sign that it is not working. Saltlakerelationshipcenter.com cites that being in a relationship does not mean you should stop working to make your partner feel loved. It actually takes a lot of work and if you feel that you have experienced a plateau then something should be done about it.
All these problems can be easily solved by being open with one another. Counselling also helps, and will be your first step to saving your precious relationship.